Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things
-1 Corinthians 4-7
I am an extremely independent person. I’ve never been one of those girls who always feels the need to have a man by her side, or rely on one person alone. I’m strong-willed and confident, as well as not overly affectionate. And I don’t plan on changing that.
I recently entered into a relationship. I’ve only known the man three weeks, but we had a lot of fun in the beginning, and I said what the hell; I took a chance. Shortly after, I realized he wasn’t the man I thought he was. Looking back, I think I was attracted to the man he WANTED to become; professional, well-off, and ambitious. That being said, I’ve come to see the man he IS, clingy, over-presumptuous, and pushy. It’s been a week and a half of this relationship, and I’m tired. I’m tired of fighting, I’m tired of being accused, and dealing with an over-emotional man. I’m starting to see just how quickly I rushed into this, and regret it more and more with each passing day, text message, and phone call.
I’ve always been the person my friends go to when they need advice, and I’ve always told them to be themselves, not let anyone push them around, and to make sure they’re happy. I tell them to live for themselves, and to do whatever it is that they need to do to be happy. I’ve broken my cardinal rule. I’ve been incredibly stressed, and not at all the person I want to be. After a few dates, one incident the other night, and back-up from the best friends I could ever ask for, it’s time to reclaim my happiness.
Don’t change the way you live your life for another. Don’t change the way you act, dress, or feel about a certain matter. Most importantly, never disregard the amount of respect you have for yourself., and never back down.
Anyone who doesn’t respect the way you live your life, doesn’t deserve you.
